Hi @jefflkennedy,
It sounds like you have a nice setup. For the server, I am thinking it may be best to only run odrive periodically, so that it is not running all the time. There is a thread here where a user is doing this with scheduled tasks:
For unsync, the subscription is tied to the odrive user’s account, so each user who wanted unsync would need to have a premium subscription. I know that this can be cost prohibitive in a family setup. We are working on some alternate subscription models that should help with this and I expect those to be available in the next couple of months.